Missing someone who hurt you does not mean you’re broken. It means you’re human. Dear Survivor, A survivor once asked me, “Why do I still miss him? After everything he did, why do I still feel drawn to him?” That question lives inside so many survivors. And it’s often followed by shame. The answer, more […]
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Strength is not something we give survivors. It is something we recognize in them. Dear Colleague, Too often, support begins with the assumption that something is wrong. When providers enter the room ready to fix, we reinforce the belief that survivors are damaged. Even gentle guidance can feel like correction when it is not requested.
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There is a quiet power in hearing yourself again after surviving what tried to silence you. Dear Survivor, Your voice is still yours. It may feel buried beneath doubt or fear, but it has never truly left you. I remember the first moment I heard mine clearly again. It happened during a small decision, one
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Healing doesn’t always move in a straight line. Dear Survivor, I thought leaving would be the hard part. I believed that once I got out, the pain would fade and peace would follow. I imagined progress would feel like clarity, like I had crossed a finish line. But instead, I found myself triggered by small
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Sometimes, the bravest thing a survivor can say is no more. Dear Survivor, There was a moment in my own journey when I whispered two words that would change everything: no more. I didn’t shout them. There was no dramatic scene. Just a quiet declaration made in the middle of an ordinary day that felt
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April 16, 2025 Some days feel impossibly heavy, but even on those days, small steps toward healing can ignite hope. Dear Survivor, Healing from domestic violence or relationship abuse is not linear. It’s a path filled with highs and lows, strength and vulnerability. On the hardest days, it might feel like you’re stuck in place,
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April 13, 2025 Resilience is the quiet force that helps survivors rise, even when the odds seem insurmountable. How can we, as therapists, nurture this essential trait in the individuals we support? Dear Colleague, Working with survivors of domestic violence and relationship abuse requires a blend of compassion, knowledge, and unwavering dedication. You see the
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April 6, 2025 Dear Survivor, If you’ve survived narcissistic abuse, please know this first and foremost: you are not alone. The road you’ve walked has been incredibly difficult, but your strength in getting to this point is truly remarkable. Narcissistic abuse is insidious. It operates quietly at first, wearing down your confidence, your identity, and
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