Sometimes even our most encouraging words can leave survivors of abusive relationship feeling unseen.
Dear Colleague,
Empowerment language can become a burden when survivors are not ready to carry it.
Phrases like “you’re so strong” or “you’ve got this” are meant to uplift, but they can land as expectations. Survivors may feel they have to perform resilience before they feel it. This can create shame where there should be space.
True empowerment meets people where they are, not where we hope they’ll be.
When we rush someone’s healing, we risk bypassing the very pain they need to process. Survivors deserve the freedom to feel overwhelmed, afraid, or ambivalent. Presence is more powerful than cheerleading.
Support is not measured by momentum.
Some days, holding steady is the most courageous act a survivor can manage. We must learn to value stillness as part of the healing journey. Encouragement should feel like an open hand, not a push forward.
Let your affirmation sound like permission, not pressure.
Ask how survivors want to be supported instead of assuming. Reflect what you hear more than what you hope for. Empowerment after abuse begins with voice, choice, and safety.
You can reinforce that message using the Reclaiming Your Strength Workbook.
With appreciation for all you do,
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