Longing for someone who hurt you does not mean you’re broken. Dear Survivor, Many I work with tell me how confusing it feels to miss their abusive partner. They ask themselves, “Do I want to be hurt?” “What’s wrong with me?” “Why do I still love someone who caused me pain?” These questions are incredibly […]
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Missing someone who hurt you does not mean you’re broken. It means you’re human. Dear Survivor, A distraught survivor once asked me, “Why do I still miss him? After everything he did, why do I still feel drawn to him?” That question lives inside so many survivors. And it’s often followed by shame. The answer,
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Grief can come not just from loss, but from finally seeing the truth. Dear Survivor, Letting go of an illusion can hurt more than letting go of a person. I remember grieving not just the relationship, but the future I imagined, the words I believed, the version of love I tried to hold together. It
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Trauma bonding can feel invisible, yet it powerfully keeps survivors tethered to abusive relationships. Dear Colleague, Understanding trauma bonding is essential for anyone committed to trauma-informed care. It is one of the most misunderstood dynamics in abusive relationships and one of the most emotionally complex. Trauma bonding occurs when a survivor forms an intense, often
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March 21, 2025 Dear Survivors, You deserve relationships built on love, mutual respect, and safety. But for many survivors, the emotional chains of trauma bonding make it difficult to break away from unhealthy or abusive dynamics. You’re not alone, and it’s possible to find freedom and healing. Today, we’re focusing on trauma bonding — what
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