April 15, 2025
The words we use as therapists can either be a bridge to healing or a barrier to trust.
Dear Colleague,
Every survivor we work with carries a unique story, filled with pain, resilience, and courage. Yet, as professionals, we know how even well-meaning statements can create harm if they’re not guided by trauma-informed care. The phrase “Just get over it,” whether direct or implied, minimizes the depth of a survivor’s experience and may erode the trust they’ve extended to us. Today, let’s explore how thoughtful, empowering language can replace the unintentional harm of dismissive phrases and help our clients feel truly seen.
Harmful Phrases to Avoid and Their Trauma-Informed Alternatives
- “Why didn’t you leave sooner?”
- “It’s time to move on.”
- “It couldn’t have been that bad.”
Providing survivors with empathy and space to share without fear of judgment is the hallmark of trauma-informed care.
Helpful Resources for Therapists
- Understand the Red Flags Knowing the warning signs of abuse is critical to guiding survivors effectively. The Red Flags of Abuse resource offers valuable insights to recognize and address early signs of harm.
- Peer Support Opportunities To maintain our own well-being and growth, connecting with other professionals is key. Join our Monthly Free Peer Support Group for therapists working with survivors. Share insights, challenges, and strategies with colleagues who understand your mission.
Final Thoughts
Language is one of the most powerful tools we have as therapists. By carefully choosing words that foster safety, empowerment, and respect, we can strengthen the healing journeys of the survivors we support. Together, we can ensure their experiences are met with the compassion and understanding they deserve.
With appreciation for all you do,