Leaving an abusive relationship isn’t just hard, it can also be life-threateningly dangerous.
Dear Colleague,
To truly support survivors, we must understand the staggering risks they face when attempting to leave an abusive partner. Here are some facts:
- 75% of intimate partner homicides occur after the survivor has left or is attempting to leave the relationship.
- The danger is highest during the first three months after separation — and remains elevated for up to a year.
- If a firearm is present, the risk of homicide increases by over 500%, making physical safety planning absolutely critical.
Leaving isn’t just an emotional decision — it’s a complex, often life-threatening transition that demands our deep respect, validation, and strategic support. We must take their fears seriously. We must carefully ask questions about safety and about how the abuser has behaved in the past and the potential for physical aggression and acute impulsivity.
Leaving an abusive partner is scary!
When we honor the real dangers survivors face, we empower them to prioritize safety, make informed choices, and break the cycle on their own terms. We walk with them. Instead of driving treatment, we are merely navigating a bit through the process. It is still their path and still their goals.
👉 Get this Free Resource to Support Your Practice: Types of Abuse Worksheet Use this worksheet to help your survivors see the abuses they have survived. It can be validating and it can be eye opening. Seeing all the abuses is key to true change.
With appreciation for all you do,
Catrina LPCS
P.S. The work you are doing is important. And you do not have to carry it alone. Consider joining our Free Monthly Peer Support Group.
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