Resources I Recommend for Survivors
These are books, workbooks, and tools I’ve personally selected for people healing from narcissistic abuse, domestic violence, and relationship trauma. They’re meant to support your journey, not replace therapy.
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Tools I Created for You
Types of Abuse Worksheet
Identify the 8 types of abuse that can happen in relationships to better understand and support yourself
Types of Abuse Worksheet for Teens
Understand the early signs of abuse in teen relationships to better support teens’ safety and well-being
Recovery Roadmap
This roadmap gives you a step-by-step guide to creating a safety plan, finding healing, and reclaiming your life after an abusive relationship
Coping Strategies Worksheet
This worksheet gives you a step-by-step guide to understanding your trauma responses and using coping strategies when overwhelmed
Break Free from Abuse
Understand narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships to support your healing
Reclaim Your Strength After Experiencing Relationship Abuse
This workbook is designed for relationship abuse survivors seeking to reclaim their strength and rebuild their lives. It features practical exercises, guided reflections, and insightful journal prompts. See what’s inside.
Heal and Rebuild After Relationship Trauma
This guided journaling workbook helps survivors process their experiences, rediscover self-worth, and rebuild confidence. Inside, you’ll find structured healing sections, creative prompts, and mindfulness tools designed to support recovery at your own pace. See what’s inside.
READING RECOMMENDATIONS
Books & Workbooks
Understanding & Navigating Relationships
- Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft: Gain insights into controlling behaviors and how to identify abusive patterns.
- Reclaiming Strength: A Workbook for Survivors of Relationship Abuse. A step-by-step guide to help you heal from your past.
- The Go-Giver Marriage: A unique perspective on nurturing and maintaining healthy romantic relationships.
- Boundaries by Henry Cloud: Learn how to set and maintain effective boundaries for healthier interactions, both personally and professionally.
- The Book of No: 365 Ways to Say it and Mean it―and Stop People-Pleasing Forever by Susan Newman.
- Safe People by Henry Cloud and John Townsend: Identify toxic behaviors and learn to cultivate safe, supportive relationships.
Working Through Emotional Distress
- The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A counterintuitive approach to living a meaningful life, focusing on what truly matters.
- The Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills Workbook: Enhance your knowledge of DBT with practical exercises focused on mindfulness, interpersonal effectiveness, and emotion regulation.
Grief & Loss
- Finding Meaning by David Kessler: A compassionate guide to understanding loss and finding purpose in life’s challenges.
Understanding EMDR Therapy
- Every Memory Deserves Respect: EMDR, the Proven Trauma Therapy with the Power to Heal. An introduction to EMDR, a proven trauma therapy with the power to heal, cowritten by a world-renowned therapist and a patient who experienced transformative relief through EMDR therapy.
- Getting Past Your Past: Take Control of Your Life with Self-Help Techniques from EMDR Therapy by Francis Shapiro.
- Tapping In by Laurel Parnell. Using tapping as a resource going beyond the EMDR Therapy room.
IF YOU NEED HELP NOW
Crisis & Support Hotlines
These services are available around the clock. You don’t have to be in immediate danger to call. If you’re struggling, confused, or just need someone to talk to, that’s enough.
MENTAL HEALTH CRISIS
988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline
Call or Text 988
Free, confidential support for people in distress. Available 24/7.
DOMESTIC VIOLENCE
National DV Hotline
1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
SEXUAL ASSAULT
RAINN Hotline
1-800-656-HOPE (4673)
MENTAL HEALTH INFO
NAMI HelpLine
1-800-950-NAMI (6264)
SUBSTANCE USE
SAMHSA Helpline
1-800-662-HELP (4357)
SEXUAL ASSAULT
Childhelp National Hotline
1-800-422-4453