March 23, 2025
Finding strength and healing after experiencing abuse, or even while you are in it, can feel like a daunting task. For many survivors, therapy becomes a lifeline. A safe space where you can unpack your experiences, process your emotions, and start the path to recovery.
Therapists are here to support you, not judge you. It’s understandable that it can be difficult to take that first step. Many of my new clients come to me grappling with significant emotional or verbal abuse, or even physical or sexual abuse. And yet, they question if what they’ve experienced even counts as abuse.
It’s important for you to know this: your experience matters, and your feelings are valid. A turning point for many of my clients is when they receive validation for what they are experiencing and what they’ve been through. For some, using tools like the Types of Abuse Worksheet can help clarify what constitutes abuse. There is a power of seeing this in print and knowing others have experienced it. And you can experience this, too. This list covers most examples of abuse. Understanding the patterns of manipulation, control, and other abusive behaviors can also you uncover other forms of abuse and manipulation that you hadn’t even considered as abuse.
Abusers often make you feel “crazy” or question yourself throughout their manipulative tactics. Therapy creates a space where you can reconnect with your truth and rebuild your sense of self. Remember, this isn’t a process you have to face alone. A therapist can help guide you through each step of your recovery.
If you’re considering therapy, know this: there is no right or wrong way to start healing. The most important thing is to take that first step when you feel ready.
Recovery Roadmap Resource
Are you looking for a structured path to begin your recovery? The Recovery Roadmap can be a powerful tool for you, a survivor. It offers guidance on recognizing harmful patterns, building skills to manage emotions, and taking steps toward creating the life you deserve.
This resource is designed to empower you and remind you that healing is possible. Take the time to explore it at your own pace, and remember, each step you take is a step toward reclaiming your life.
You Are Not Alone
Healing doesn’t have to happen in isolation. Here are some ways you can start reaching out for help and support today:
- Find a Therapist: Look for a therapist in your area or online in your state. You can use resources like Psychology Today, asking your insurance company, checking with your employer’s EAP (Employee Assistance Program, these sessions are often free), or locating your local domestic violence agency (services are free to survivors).
- Download Resources: Discover free tools and guides like the Types of Abuse Worksheet and/or the Recovery Roadmap to support your healing process.
- Contact the Domestic Violence Hotline: If you feel unsafe or need someone to talk to, don’t hesitate to call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), go to thehotline.org or text START to 88788. They are available 24/7 to provide confidential support. They can also help you get connected to your local domestic violence agency or shelter.
- Talk to Someone You Trust: Whether it’s a friend, family member, or therapist, sharing what you’re going through with someone you trust can be incredibly healing. You don’t have to go through this alone. Even if you have been isolated by your partner, your loved ones still care about you.
Remember This:
Reaching out for help doesn’t mean you’re weak. It means you’re ready to bravely take back your power. This is your recovery, your healing, and your life. Step by step, you can rebuild a future free from abuse and full of hope.
Stay strong, and be gentle with yourself. You deserve kindness, peace, and care on this journey.
With Strength and Support,
Catrina