You deserve peace, freedom, and a life centered on you.
Dear Survivor,
Whether you are in an abusive relationship, recovering from narcissistic abuse or just navigating a world where your partner’s actions have you questioning yourself, this article is for you.
It’s common to feel caught up in watching what a current or former partner is doing online or through social media. This focus, though understandable, can become overwhelming, consuming your energy and leaving little room for your own healing. For some, this extends to monitoring their partner’s phones or devices, driven by a loss of trust. These actions can prolong the cycle of pain and prevent you from finding the peace you truly deserve.
You are worthy of so much more. By choosing to step back, you create the mental space needed to focus on your own well-being, growth, and joy. Reclaim that energy for yourself. Your healing matters, and your freedom begins with letting go of what no longer serves you.
It’s time to break free, reclaim your energy, and shift your focus toward healing. Let’s do this together.
7 Powerful Steps to Refocus on Yourself
1. Turn Off Notifications
Stop the endless cycle of checking. Disable notifications from apps or accounts that keep you tied to your partner’s actions. Every ping takes away your power. Silence them and give yourself space to breathe.
2. Limit Social Media Time
Are you scrolling their profiles or drowning in comparison? Set boundaries. Use app timers or schedule specific times for social media, then stick to it. A digital detox can work wonders for clearing your mind (consider taking a break for 7 days or even 30 days).
3. Stop Surveillance, Start Healing
Constantly monitoring their phone or other devices won’t rebuild trust, nor will it give you closure. Use that energy to focus inward. Ask yourself, “What would my life look like if I focused on my growth instead of their actions?”
4. Practice Mindfulness Daily
When anxiety creeps in, bring yourself back to the present. Try breathing exercises, guided meditations, or simply writing down your thoughts in a journal. Plant your feet firmly in today and take control of your emotions.
5. Seek Support to Build Strength
Healing doesn’t have to happen alone. Find a therapist or join a support group where you can process your emotions in a safe space. Surround yourself with people who remind you how strong you already are.
6. Set Boundaries and Stick to Them
Block or mute their profiles if needed. Avoid places (online or offline) where you know they are. Commit to boundaries that protect your mental and emotional health. You are worth protecting.
7. Celebrate Every Step Forward
Even the smallest win matters. Did you skip checking their social media today? Amazing. Did you try a new hobby or reconnect with an old friend? Incredible. Celebrate progress, however small, and watch it grow.
You’re Worth the Work
Healing takes time, but every decision to invest in yourself is a powerful act of love and defiance against the pain you’ve experienced. Choose you. Reclaim your energy, rebuild your confidence, and remind yourself daily of your strength. You’ve got this.
Take the first step today. Your new chapter starts now.
Blessings and healing,