When power and control doesn’t stop at the door, it often follows you through your screens. Dear Survivor, A client once told me something that still sits heavy: her partner had secretly placed a tracking device on her car before a weekend recreation trip with a friend. She was shocked when she found it on […]
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The first step isn’t fixing yourself. It’s remembering you were never broken. Dear Survivor, If you’ve just left a narcissistic relationship, or if you’re still trying to find the strength to go, this question may be echoing inside you: “Where do I even start?” Healing after narcissistic abuse is not a linear process. It doesn’t
The ties that hurt the most are often the hardest to break. Dear Survivor, You may have left the relationship, but something keeps pulling you back, a longing, a guilt, a whisper of “maybe it wasn’t that bad.” If you’ve ever felt stuck in an emotional loop with someone who caused you harm, it’s worth
If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m the crazy one,” you’re not alone. Dear Survivor, Survivor after survivor asks me the same question in different words: “Am I remembering it wrong?” “Am I overreacting?” “Am I crazy?” They’re not asking because they are confused people. They’re asking because they’ve been made to doubt their own mind.
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It wasn’t “just emotional abuse.” It was psychological warfare dressed as love. Dear Survivor, If you’ve ever wondered why it hurts so much—why you can’t just move on, why the pain lingers even when they’re gone—you’re not broken. Narcissistic abuse cuts deeper than most people realize because it targets the very core of who you
When hurt becomes a pattern, the difference matters, and your feelings deserve clarity. Dear Survivor, If you’ve ever wondered whether what you’re experiencing is abuse or just a “bad relationship,” you’re not alone. Many survivors wrestle with this question, especially when the behavior they’re experiencing doesn’t leave visible bruises. Abuse doesn’t always scream. Sometimes, it
Sometimes, the hardest part isn’t leaving, it’s staying gone. Dear Survivor, One survivor asked me a question that lives in the heart of so many who’ve walked away from painful relationships: “Why do I still miss her?” He had done what felt like the impossible, left a home that once made him feel small. This
When someone chips away at your sense of self in the name of love, that is not love. Dear Survivor, Sometimes, survivors of narcissistic abuse don’t realize they’re being harmed until the damage is done. The signs are often subtle, wrapped in affection or disguised as concern. But behind the charm is a pattern of
When your heart whispers what your mind can’t quite name, it’s time to listen. Dear Survivor, It takes incredible courage to even entertain the thought: I think I’m in an abusive relationship but not sure. That uncertainty can feel like a fog, especially when you’ve been told you’re overreacting, too emotional, or imagining things. Abuse
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Explore Effective Self-Compassion Techniques Today Sometimes the hardest person to be gentle with is ourselves. Dear Survivor, You give so much to others. You show up with patience, with grace, with understanding. But when it’s your own pain, your own healing, you tighten up. The self compassion you deserve often gets buried under old stories
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