Caring deeply is not the same as being equipped to help safely.
Dear Colleague,
Even the most compassionate provider can cause harm without realizing it.
When we rely solely on empathy without examining our approach, we may unintentionally silence or steer survivors. What we think is support can feel like control when it overrides their voice. Trauma informed care means doing our own work, not just feeling deeply.
Survivors deserve more than good hearts—they deserve skilled, aware care.
Survivor safety depends on our willingness to challenge bias, question systems, and adjust power dynamics. Continuing education is not optional in this work. Neither is humility.
We cannot let our intention shield us from impact.
Saying “I meant well” does not undo harm. Survivors notice when we center our comfort over their clarity. Accountability is a form of care, not a consequence.
Every survivor is the expert on their own experience.
Our role is to follow their lead, not take over their path. Reflection, supervision, and quality training allow us to stay grounded and responsive. Support without skill can still be risky.
You can strengthen your approach through the 3 hour CE Course Working with Survivors, designed specifically for providers working with domestic violence survivors.
With appreciation for all you do,
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