Some wounds are invisible to everyone — except the one carrying them. Dear Survivor, Emotional abuse leaves scars no one else can see. It seeps into your self-worth, erodes your confidence, and twists your understanding of love. You begin to question your instincts, your memories, even your sense of who you are after surviving a […]
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Curiosity, not assumptions, creates the emotional safety survivors need to truly heal. Dear Colleague, In our work with survivors of domestic violence and relationship abuse, curiosity is not just a clinical stance—it is a lifeline. When someone has lived through gaslighting, control, or emotional abuse, being truly heard without pressure can feel revolutionary. Assumptions, even
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Survival begins the moment you dare to believe your voice deserves to be heard. Dear Survivor, I remember the moment I realized my voice had been taken from me. It wasn’t through one loud event, but a thousand small ones — the times I was ignored, the moments my feelings were twisted, the steady drumbeat
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Sometimes, the greatest act of strength is the choice not to respond. Dear Survivor, There was a time in my own healing when I believed I had to defend myself against every jab, every sideways comment, every accusation. The bait was so tempting — a pointed comment about my parenting, a snide remark about my
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Some of the most profound shifts for survivors begin with giving themselves permission to choose their own response – taking back their power. Dear Colleague, Abusers often twist words, incite arguments, and create emotional traps designed to keep survivors entangled. Engaging in these conversations is often futile and draining. Teaching survivors the empowering skill of
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Healing after trauma is rarely a straight line — it’s a winding path that survivors must walk at their own pace, with curiosity as our greatest companion. Dear Colleague, When I first began working with survivors, I thought my role was to guide them swiftly toward solutions. The bravest thing we can do as therapists
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There’s something powerful about knowing you’re not alone — and this month, survivors around the world are rising together. Dear Survivor, April holds deep meaning in our community — it’s Sexual Assault Awareness Month, and next week, we honor Denim Day — a movement that began as a protest against victim-blaming and has since become
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If you’ve experienced domestic violence or relationship abuse, it can be hard to make sense of what you’re going through. You might feel confused, overwhelmed, or question your own reality. These feelings are common—but they don’t change the fact that what’s happening (or has happened) to you is not your fault. Here are 3 simple
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I have been working in trauma-focused therapy for survivors of domestic violence and relationship abuse for many years. These are the 3 simple (but effective) pieces of advice I’d give anyone starting out (or who wants to get started): Advice #1: Understand that staying in an abusive relationship can be a safety decision. One of
Gaslighting is more than manipulation; it’s a calculated tool of control that leaves survivors doubting their own reality. Dear Colleague, When working with survivors of narcissistic abuse, we often encounter the devastating effects of gaslighting. This insidious form of emotional abuse strips individuals of their self-trust, leaving them in a haze of confusion and shame.
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