Believing survivors starts long before we say the words out loud. Dear Colleague, Many of us say we believe survivors, but our actions tell another story. We second-guess timelines, ask for more details, or look for signs that someone is “credible.” These micro-validations communicate that survivors must prove their pain. And they chip away at […]
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Caring deeply is not the same as being equipped to help safely. Dear Colleague, Even the most compassionate provider can cause harm without realizing it. When we rely solely on empathy without examining our approach, we may unintentionally silence or steer survivors. What we think is support can feel like control when it overrides their
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Strength is not something we give survivors. It is something we recognize in them. Dear Colleague, Too often, support begins with the assumption that something is wrong. When providers enter the room ready to fix, we reinforce the belief that survivors are damaged. Even gentle guidance can feel like correction when it is not requested.
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No is a complete sentence, even when your voice trembles. Dear Survivor, Saying no used to feel impossible for me. I remember the weight in my chest every time I wanted to speak up but didn’t. My silence wasn’t because I agreed. It was because I had been taught that protecting others from discomfort mattered
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Some days, helping survivors will confront parts of you that you have not healed yet. Dear Colleague, Working with survivors often surfaces your own unprocessed wounds. Even the most seasoned provider can feel caught off guard by an emotional reaction. These reactions may come from past personal trauma, grief, or even early professional burnout. No
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Some of the most dangerous moments in a survivor’s life happen right after they decide to leave. Dear Colleague, Leaving is often the most life threatening decision a survivor can make. Studies show that women are 70 times more likely to be killed in the weeks after leaving than at any other time in the
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For survivors, trust isn’t just given — it’s rebuilt piece by piece. Dear Colleague, Helping survivors rebuild trust after abuse is one of the most delicate parts of relationship recovery. When we prioritize emotional safety and empowerment, survivors can learn that healthy connection is possible — and they are worthy of it. 👉 Resource to
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Understanding manipulation tactics is key to helping survivors stay empowered and safe. Dear Colleague, Two concepts every survivor — and provider — needs to understand are gray rocking and bread crumbing. When survivors know what to expect, they can protect their energy, set stronger boundaries, and move forward more confidently. 👉 Resource to Support Your
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The true goal isn’t just surviving abuse — it’s building a life beyond it. Dear Colleague, When we support survivors, we aren’t just helping them leave an abusive relationship — we are helping them break the cycle for good. By focusing on empowerment over rescue, we help survivors create lasting change rooted in their own
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Your intuition often sees the truth long before your mind can explain it. Dear Survivor, In every abusive relationship, there are warning signs — little moments that make your heart race, your stomach tighten, your spirit shrink. Maybe it was the way they mocked your dreams, isolated you from loved ones, or twisted every argument
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